Do you fear getting back out there to date, meet new people, or simply have micro-moments with others because you’ve experienced distrust, self-doubt and have felt heartbroken? Have you built walls to keep yourself safe from getting hurt, and the same walls that were meant to keep you safe are keeping you from meeting new people, or having deeper connections with new people, and deep-down inside you yearn to connect but don’t know where to begin, how to trust others and even yourself?
If you can relate to some of what I just shared, then you’re in the right place.
My name is Virginia, and over 8 years ago I experienced the above pain, doubt and even cynicism around relationships as a result of a traumatic break-up. Before the event that changed my life, I felt very confident and truly was a goal-getter. But after finding out my then partner was unfaithful, I began to doubt myself, and was afraid of ever feeling shame and hurt again. The emotions were very consuming, and I would think I’ll always be single and that those in relationships are careless, until one day I recognized that I really didn’t want to be single or disconnected. I desired connections and love, and I deserved it, but how what and where would I begin.
Through the years I’ve hired coaches, attended seminars, and did a lot of personal development where I finally reached the point of feeling whole again, and whole enough to take the leap to connect with others again, and getting back to having a relationship with the Highest force of Love.
From my journey in transforming fear to love, I created Love Camp 2.0.
Love Camp is a 5 part process I’ve navigated. It’s meant to support women that feel the fear and doubt , and yet are interested in moving forward towards having love in their life again.
The first part of this experience will be an short 2-hour workshop. The the next 4 parts are split in two days.
Women that have been having a hard time moving forward after the end of a relationship and are feeling heartbroken, doubtful, in fear of connecting again, YET they yearn for that loving experience in their lives.
In order to answer why, I’d have to tell you the story… Here it is…
Before finishing high school I was dead-set on becoming a self sufficient adult; so I pursued working an internship at a mortgage company and was a sales person while attending my final years in high-school. Eventually I signed up for college and worked to pay for school. I had envisioned purchasing property and starting a family at age 23, and despite not being done with college at that time, I did it. I had set out to complete my bachelors degree from FIU in Business Administration with the thought that despite starting a family midway through school, I would finish what I started, and I did it. I set out to grow my career path in business, boldly, and I did it.
But what I didn’t plan on was what life and love had in store for me after those great achievements. One afternoon in February of 2009, just a month after returning to work from maternity leave after having my second son, I found out that my former partner had an affair with my long-time friend. All of a sudden parts of me and my beliefs of love, relationships, friendships and connection seemed to evaporate and die. I had never set out to lack trust in others, to have a hard time getting back into new relationships, or to feel disconnected and lost from myself, but there it was. Life throwing a curveball in my face. I didn’t understand then and I asked myself all the questions that began with why. My mind replayed the pain over and over again many days. My self-esteem suffered as I feared looking like a fool ever again. I felt that a part of me was shattered, and I found myself numb to the idea of emotional connection.
In the midst of dealing with my feelings, I had to find ways to stay centered. That wasn’t easy in the slightest bit since I was still so uncertain and unable to trust my ability to make decisions. After a year and half of a lot of back and forth with my then-partner trying to figure out if we could salvage this relationship for the sake of the kids, there was a day when my oldest son, at age 5, said to me “Mami, you’re not happy.” I will never forget the way my son looked up at me when he said that. Something awoke inside me, and a solid decision was born to nurture my soul, my spirit and my mind, because all I wanted was to raise happy children in a happy home, and I could only do that if we, their parents, were happy. I wanted them to have healthier emotional examples.
While what caused this life circumstance to happen may have been out of my control, my healing was totally in my hands. This ending was the beginning of my transformational journey. At the beginning of the healing process I found myself feeling alone, which is a bit hard because I did have people in my life that I felt loved me. I have a huge family and a good handful of friends, but speaking to friends was a way to vent, not always the source of healing, and not because friends don’t have great intentions. It was not an experience they could provide guidance on. So I sought the support of professionals from a sex and relationship therapist to family counselors, and, again, it felt that the advice received still couldn’t provide the empathy, nurturing support for me to create my healing path. It also felt rushed and only grazing the surface issues.
So I started to create my own path for healing by doing the work beginning with clarifying my power as a woman, a mom, and a business person. My exploration to this healing path began with attending many types of healing gatherings, personal development events, several group seminars, individual coaching for over 18 months, workshops, read different types of books and obtaining certifications. I became part of a spiritual community that also was a source for healing. I carved a road map of healing for myself that began with reconnecting with the core of my being.
From 2012 to now, I spent time discovering, transforming, evolving and taking actions. It was quite the process because there was pain associated with the thought of trusting someone else again, but I leaned into the discomfort. I learned by facing fears, and in each win of facing my fears, and redefining my healing and growth path, my strength and mental fortitude emboldened. I gained the courage to open up again to relationships and began to trust myself better than before feeling freer and compassionate in my journey in loving and trusting once again. Not only did my work and growth help me in relationships, but it got me out of my comfort zone to become an entrepreneur which was always a childhood dream of mine.
Facing my fears seemed to be an example to others to also face there’s. I’ve taken my experience, spiritual growth, and my belief that the circumstances we experience in life do not have to define us and transformed my healing journey to be more about facilitating the process of healing for others. I launched a small monthly meet-up called Healing Hearts in Miami to help people have a place to feel heard, and, if they choose to, explore ways of moving forward. As a coach I’ve supported some of the daring ones that are open to co-creating their possibility in healing, and moving forward with more love and trust in their lives. My form of coaching others has helped others gain clarity, discern there steps, and work from their highest energetic essence. I’ve had the opportunity of creating a program and facilitating a group coaching experience for employees in an organization to have unity, trust and connectedness with colleagues and clients.
The past was once riddled with pain, sorrow, anxiety and distrust, but the journey has been fruitful. It’s led to strength, support and transformation for myself and for others in there journey of healing and growing. Growing in such a way that I can be a great example to my boys as they see my ability to maintain positive communications with people that once hurt me without allowing the past to trigger me. Growth in seeing the spiritual purpose and opportunity. Strength in making strong agreements for myself and God that I vow to uphold. It’s led to this work in serving in programs such as Unity, Trust and Connectedness in organizations, and Love Camp 2.0, as well as 1:1 coaching of courageous individuals ready to go deep and take things to the next level for themselves. I’m grateful to the journey that’s led to this space of serving you.
Will we talk about the past and my ex-partner a lot? I’m not sure I want to go back there..
We will not look back more than needed in this space of healing. While the past has led to the current circumstance, ultimately the goal with Love Camp is to empower you to move forward confidently. The focus is YOU more than your ex-partner.
How many days is Love Camp 2.0?
It’s about 3 days in total, and this will be split up between weekends. This is done to give some space in digesting information and feelings you come up with. Also, it gives an opportunity to explore outside the seminar series and come back to get support from myself, the coach.
How quick will I be able to see results?
Results vary and are dependent on not only what is learned but the mindset outside of Love Camp 2.0, but what is put into action. Sometimes additional support is needed, so I have opportunities to support you through your transformational journey through resources and other programs.
What if I just want to try Love Camp out before committing? Is that an option?
Yes. This is an option. While Love Camp is a series of workshops, the first workshop is 2-hours and you can take what you gain in that one or you can continue and enroll fully in Love Camp. The investment for that first part is $75.
I’m already interested in going full-out with Love Camp. What is the investment for all 5 parts?
The investment for all 5 parts is $447, and if you sign-up now (early bird) it’s $397.
More details on dates and location will be provided. Feel free to send a message with the contact form.
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How do I enroll?
Are you ready to embrace love full out or just try the first part of Love Camp 2.0? Select your level of participation in the drop down, and click Buy Now to begin your Love Camp 2.0 Journey:
More information on the investment:
Regular price is $447, but today you can purchase the entire program at $397.
If you are open to only try part 1 of 5 (Reclaiming Your Power), the limited time pricing is $75. Click the drop down and select the second option.
If you still thinking about whether this will serve, please set up time to speak with me before the event by completing the form below.